What is important for a man?
There are thousands of answers to this question. But, at the same time, we know that the first thing that the Lord gave to the first man, Adam (peace be upon him), was his wife Eve.
She brought peace for his soul, and became a faithful friend and life partner to him. The human race continued thanks to the fact that Adam and Eve found each other. Mother, wife, daughter, sister make a man’s life rich and beautify it.
Freedom is important for every man. Moreover a man wants to feel that he is needed, he is loved, appreciated and respected. He always wishes to be inspired to heroic deeds and new achievements.
Of course, one’s own home, good transport and reliable people around him are of great importance to a man as well. This is also confirmed in the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him): “Four things are part of happiness: a righteous wife, a spacious abode, a good neighbour and a good means of transportation. And four things are part of misery: a bad neighbour, a bad wife, a small abode and a bad means of transportation.”(Narrated by Al-Hakim). May God grant grace in everything that He has given to men!
What destroys a man?
The answer to this question reveals many factors that contribute to the degradation of a man as a person. Among the many threats to the mental and physical well-being of men, addictions such as alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, random extramarital affairs, computer games, gluttony, laziness, love of excess, unnecessary risks, etc. are named. How many smart and talented men were ruined by a weak-willed attitude towards life and inability to resist temptations!
Of course, it is easy to destroy a person who has a standard set of mental vices and sensual thoughts, consisting of envy, pride, vanity, excessive anger, ambition, self-content, showing off, selfishness, indifference, lust for power, gloating, greed, waste, despair, sadness, deceit and many other mental weaknesses.
By combining mind, willpower and sincere hope in the Almighty, a man can overcome all these weaknesses in himself. But this is a very difficult and merciless struggle, in which battle follows battle until the end of man’s life in this world. We wish men victories in this uncompromising war.
What is a man afraid of?
Men have no less phobias than women. Numerous polls of males show that most of them are afraid of losing their positions and rating in society. In the top of male phobias - fear of losing power and fear of poverty, and these factors are the strongest stimulators of male behaviour and a great test for them. Men are afraid of loneliness and being of no use to anyone.
At the same time, they are afraid of responsibility, therefore many find themselves alone. Men are afraid of disappointment, illness and pain, as well as to be seen as weak and joining the ranks of losers. However one of the most powerful fears among men is to lose loved ones. Fighting fears can sometimes drive even a very strong man into sadness and depression.
The most powerful protection against phobias is to put one’s trust in the will of the Almighty. Understanding that nothing happens without the will of the Creator and that there will be relief for any difficulties, as well as that worldly life is a temporary, can give a man immunity to his fears.
There is no strength and power, except those given by the Almighty, and His mercy and protection will cover those who sincerely trust in Him. The Koran says (the meaning of the commentary to the 40th ayah of Sura At-Tawbah), “... Do not worry; Allah is certainly with us. ...” These are the words of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), spoken to his great companion Abu Bakr (may God pleased with him) when they found themselves in a cave, escaping the pursuit of the Quraysh.
MUHAMMAD ALIMCHULOV As-Salam correspondent
