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Raising Children: 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes Parents Make

Raising Children: 10 Most Dangerous Mistakes Parents Make
  • Another mistake in raising children is the prohibition, especially on the part of the mother, to do work that they are quite capable of, on the grounds that such an attitude is an expression of care and mercy towards them.

    • However, such a manifestation of pity towards children deprives them of full participation in family life. Such a child will grow up lazy, carefree, indifferent and passive. Even having matured, he will not become an independent person and will always look for a person to rely on.

    1. Excessive control over a child, especially on the part of a mother who closely watches his every move 24 hours a day, prevents the child from becoming an individual. Excessive care will not do him any good and can only harm him. Parents should watch over their child and control him, but within reasonable limits.
    2. One of the most dangerous mistakes parents make is preferring one child over another, whether in gifts, in relationships, in showing love, etc. Parents should be fair to their children and not prefer one child over another.
    3. One should not insult children and force them to be silent when they start to say something or mock their words. This leads to self-doubt and in the future, they will be ashamed to say something in front of people. One needs to listen to them and explain if they are wrong about something.
    4. It is strictly forbidden to commit reprehensible acts in front of children. One cannot smoke, drink alcoholic beverages, listen to forbidden music, etc. in the presence of children, because parents are their main role models. After all, it is easier for parents to raise children through their behavior than with words, instructions and advice.
    5. One should not spoil a child and satisfy any of his whims. Otherwise, in order to get something, he will start crying or go into hysterics; as a rule, parents immediately try to give him what he asks for. Regardless of the consequences of such behavior, parents do this in order to maintain peace and quiet.

    In this situation, the child will always use his position to control his parents. Such a child grows up to be an egoist, incapable of empathy and not thinking about others. And where there is no empathy, there is no generosity.

    Here we have listed several mistakes that parents make in raising their children but there are many such mistakes. Parents should beware of them and try to raise their children - using the examples of the best people of our Ummah.

     

    Nurmuhammad Izudinov

    Theologian

    2026-10-01 (Rabi-ul-ahir 1448) №10.


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