How to praise a man correctly
One may think that praising a person is not a hard thing to do. It seems to be so simple on the one hand, but on the other, we can praise a person to the extent that he will not feel happy, rather he may be surprised or even offended, especially if we add mockery to the praise.
Women’s praise is really important for men. It increases self-esteem and inspires men for new achievements. Moreover it allows men to feel like real defenders and supporters for their women. So, first of all, let us define what praise (compliment) is.
Praise is placing an emphasis on the value of a person, on certain of his merits. It is some kind of recognition of man’s masculinity. Thus, experts advise women to inspire their “defenders” by praising them from time to time. First of all this concerns spouses, as well as brothers, sons and other relatives.
Praise for specific matters
A man should be praised for the things he does. Thus he will associate inspiring encouragements of the spouse with his deeds and in the future, even unconsciously, he will try to do something that will cause praise from his beloved. However, if you praise a man for no specific matter and do it very often, then he will have the feeling that he does not really deserve the compliments you make.
Choose the right words
The forms of praise for a woman and a man are somewhat different. As a rule, men like their physical and intellectual qualities to be emphasized, rather than their appearance or emotions. Strong, intelligent, professional, educated, courageous, decisive – these are the epithets that will surely please a man. Here you can also add: caring, attentive, reliable, purposeful.
Encouragement for small achievements
Spare no compliments for a man even for daily male duties or helping you around the house. A male really needs support and motivation from the female.
Avoid comparison
Do not compare your man to others! Men usually do not like being compared, even if the comparison is in their favour. Note that he is the best and that’s it.
Sincerity
Of course, praise must be sincere. If you say to your loved one, “you are kind and fair,” you must entirely believe it yourself.
Surprise
Sometimes compliments should be made unexpectedly, for they have a special effect and are better remembered.
Concretization
It is better to praise a man for specific things and not just in general. For example, it is better to replace “you are a good fellow” with “how smart and responsible you are, you have done such a difficult task.”
Consider individuality
Some of men prefer compliments for their strength, some for the mind, and some would prefer that their wife admire their dexterity and ability to bring a full bucket of fish from fishing every time. It is advisable to study a man well to find out what kind of praise he prefers.
JULIA ZACHESOVA
