Four female habits that drive men crazy
Four female habits that drive men crazy
Men and women. We are different in everything, from appearance to worldview. It is hard for us to understand each other. Only after living in marriage side by side for 10-15 years, having eaten a peck of salt together, do the husband and wife acquire the ability to speak the same language and think in the same direction.
But there are things that can be learned without following the difficult path of trial, error and long grinding. Today we will find out what annoys men the most in their chosen ones, and try to begin to get rid of these relationship-destroying habits.
A state of endless resentment
“I love my wife, I appreciate her care, I see how she gets tired, raising our children. But when I notice how, for some unknown reason, she stops talking to me, walks around the house gloomy, or suddenly starts crying for no reason, I do not understand how to behave with her.” (Arsen, 27 years old).
Yes, constant unreasonable grievances are among the top female habits that cause a storm of negative emotions in men. Many of us have noticed our “talent” to find problems where there are none. We sometimes find it difficult to sort out our thoughts and mood swings. Men, who are not endowed by nature with high sensitivity, become unsettled from such emotional swings. If you do not want to push your loved one away from you, do not be led by negative emotions.
Jealousy
“My wife is my personal investigator. She is constantly on the lookout, looking for any clue to convict me of a crime. What women? What communication with females? I have a completely different headache. But she is convinced otherwise. The phone is checked every day. Does it annoy me? For the time being, I endure, but when she starts to make a fuss, inventing something unimaginable, then I lose my temper.” (Andrew, 40 years old).
Excessive jealousy is very annoying, especially for such freedom-loving creatures as men. Controlling a husband, like mother controls a schoolboy son, we simply erase all the facets that should exist in a relationship between a man and a woman, we invade forbidden territory. Such painful jealousy will not protect against a potential rival, but will force a man to flee from his wife, who is encroaching on his freedom.
Family on display
“My wife’s friends almost brought us to a divorce, giving advice on how to live. She told her friends about all our disputes, every omission, and hung on the phone for hours. After such discussions, the relationship got worse and worse. Miraculously, we saved our family. Now she does not tell anything about our relationship, either good or bad.” (Dmitry, 34 years old).
The habit of telling those who surround you about everything that happens in the family has broken many happy unions. There are misunderstandings between husband and wife, but by telling our mother, girlfriends, and sisters about everything, we do not solve problems, but only exacerbate them.
Money down the drain
“My wife is a real spender. I work two jobs. And she has heard sufficient of Internet psychologists, looked at pictures with iPhones and diamonds and also wants to live in such a big way. She even accuses me of greed. I provide for our family: food, clothing, repairs, doctors, and I give her money for expenses. But no matter how much I give her, it is not enough for her.” (Ali, 38 years old).
Men really appreciate women who know how to competently manage the family budget. A wise wife will always gratefully accept the means that her husband brings to the family hearth. Shared goals and understanding how important it is to appreciate your spouse will help you think differently about the means that the head of the family earns.
Safiya Fokina
As-Salam correspondent