Help them while they are little...
In 1999, when my first child was born, mobile phones were not yet common. I also did not have access to the Internet. Therefore, over the years I have made many mistakes as a mother.
Of course, I did not know much of what I know now; I did not understand how important a knowledge of psychology is in raising children and how it could affect their whole life. Some things I did not think about at all.
Fortunately, now we have both phones and the Internet. And almost everyone who can read has the opportunity to learn everything that interests them regarding bringing up children. There are many pages of psychologists in social networks who write about how to learn to be competent and kind parents. They explain in detail what can and cannot be said to children and what actions can harm them. What to do to make children feel protected and loved by their parents. How to behave with a child so that he grows up confident in himself and so on.
Once I read that the Internet is like a knife - you can both cut bread and kill a person using it. Today, the World Wide Web gives us great opportunities. Therefore, we must get to know how to use it correctly.
Since children need the help of mature people, please, be sure to read the posts of professional psychologists about them. To make their adult life happy, filled with love and joy, help them while they are small. It is very important thing. Because many of our problems are echoes from childhood.
Teach children to protect themselves from violence. Explain how to resist being tempted to try a cigarette or alcohol. Tell them how to become a kind, good, useful person for society. Indeed, there are many events in the life of a child that affects mood, behavior, desire to learn, etc.
Not only we, adults, have such emotions as disappointment, apathy, resentment, fear, pain, shame, but our children have as well. They often need our advice, support and protection.
Why is the topic of suicide among teenagers relevant nowadays? There are many such cases and this is a great tragedy for all of us. It is just that these children cannot trust anyone, talk about their problems and say frankly, “Help me, mother.”
Parents should know what needs to be done so that the child is always sure that there is a way out of any situation and that all problems can be solved. We can teach children not to resort to extreme measures. And for this they must trust us, know that we will not push them away and will not condemn them, but rather we will always find time to listen to them.
We must become the most devoted and faithful friends for them, because apart from us they have no one to go to with their sorrows and difficulties. They do not have the same experience as we do. Children have a need to express more than just negative emotions. They want to tell us about joyful events. About positive grades at school, success in sports, about the attentive attitude of a teacher. They need us to praise them, admire their talents and appreciate their diligence. They need our attention and our warmth.
We are obliged to take care not only of their physical and material well-being, but also of their mora well-being. After all, spiritual wounds remain and affect the whole life of a person. They spoil the mood of adults, as well not allowing them to achieve their goals and affect the psyche.
Do not make the mistakes of those who are no longer able to correct them. Use the Internet for good, because your children need you, your knowledge and your attention. Do not be lazy. Your child’s life depends on it!
Speak to them with love and teach them to love. Give them hugs to make life easier.
