How to choose a future son-in-law?
How to choose a future son-in-law?
Every mother wants a husband for her daughter and a son-in-law for herself - not an ordinary one, but the best. What does “the best” mean? Everyone has their own vision on this matter, but all mothers and fathers want their daughter to be happy and for her husband to love her.
The standard and most popular requirements of modern parents for future sons-in-law include the following criteria: rich, handsome, decent, caring, clever, successful, God-fearing, well-behaved, courageous, well-mannered, intelligent, from a good and noble family, cultured, educated, generous, high... – the list can be very long.
National and religious affiliation is of no small importance for many. Sometimes these two aspects can be fundamental for parents when choosing a future spouse for their daughter.
In deeply religiously observant families, regarding the question “what kind of son-in-law would you like?” the top criteria include such qualities as fear of God, good morals, sincerity, adherence to correct religious views, and compliance with religious requirements.
The potential son-in-law seems to be religious, but what exactly are his views? Many parents are worried that their daughter will come across some extremist or person with radical views. This question is very important and relevant in light of the increased public interest in religion.
Parents’ fears and concerns about future sons-in-law
To the question “what kind of son-in-law would you not want?” many parents answered: they would not want their son-in-law to turn out to be a drug addict, an extremist, a terrorist, a hypocrite, a cheater, a drinker, a smoker, a selfish, stingy, tyrannical, stupid, rude person who has AIDS or sexually transmitted diseases.
In the modern world, the need for parents to check the past and present of a candidate for the honoured title of the future second half of their daughter is becoming increasingly urgent. Unfortunately, some may have bad connections on the side; bad habits and addictions, another secret wife and children, debts and a dark past.
Different views
The views of parents and daughters may differ in matters of choosing a second half. A mother may say, “My daughter deserves a better man than the one who is wooing her.” Some parents believe that they have done a good job raising their daughter, so she should be able to choose the right person herself. “It is not for us to live with him, it is her life and her choice.”
What makes a good son-in-law?
In order for a son-in-law to be good, he must first of all understand that he is trusted with the most valuable thing that the parents of the girl have.
The girl’s parents always hope that their daughter is doing well at home. They want their daughter to be an ideal wife, a good daughter-in-law and a loving mother. And for her to be like this, there must be a worthy son-in-law next to her, who loves his wife, takes care of his family, raises his children with dignity and respects his wife’s relatives. They say of such people: we did not lose a daughter, we found a son. We wish all sons-in-law to be perfect.
