The Ideal Husband’s Commandments
Family is a daily effort. And for any family to be successful, both spouses must work hard, for, as the saying goes, one man is no match for another.
To be happy in marriage, a woman does not need much... Although it is not... In fact, she needs much... But in this article, we will limit ourselves to ten rules for a husband, the observance of which is sure to please any woman.
- Talk to your wife
Make time to communicate with your wife. Ask her how she is doing, how her day has gone. It is important for a woman to feel her husband’s interest in her life and her personality. Offer her advice when needed, a wife needs your guidance as much as your attention and care.
- Listen and hear
Being heard is very important for everyone. This is especially important in a family. Therefore, try to be attentive when communicating with your wife. If you are talking, try to focus solely on her (avoid distractions like your phone, TV, or anything else). Let it be, however brief, but only her time.
Remember: the slightest inattention on the part of a man can give rise to a thousand assumptions in a woman’s mind that neither you nor she needs.
- Empathize with your wife
Women are more sensitive and vulnerable, and what would not make a man blink can move a woman to tears. Therefore, a husband should be indulgent and sensitive to his wife, not neglecting sympathy and comfort. After all, sometimes a woman simply needs the support of a stronger, more emotionally stable man.
- Be kind
Naturally, a man is the head of the family, an unshakable authority whom everyone should obey and respect. But this circumstance should not prevent him from showing kindness to the weaker sex: his wife and children. Kindness to his family will only strengthen a man’s position without discrediting his authority.
- Help with heavy loads
A woman is a fragile creature and carrying heavy loads is not at all becoming for her. Therefore, a man must be caring and assist his wife in this matter. This demonstrates masculine strength and a kind attitude toward the one God has entrusted to you.
- Be patient
This is perhaps the most difficult rule. But, as we know, the more difficult things are, the greater the reward we receive. Try to be patient with your wife’s shortcomings, as this is the only way to enjoy her strengths.
- Be protective
Every woman in marriage strives to find security, a so-called “wall” that can protect her from all adversity. Therefore, it is very important for a husband to be a protector, caring for his woman, showing sensitivity and attention to her.
- Be gentle when you discover your wife’s mistakes
A husband should not scold and criticise his wife for every mistake she makes. This attitude fosters fear in a woman’s heart, causing her to become wary of her every step and action. If your wife makes a mistake, be gentle and kind in your important advice, ensuring that she never doubts your respect and appreciation for her.
- Do not be shy about expressing gratitude
It is important for a woman to feel not only her own importance, but also the value of what she does for the family. Do not hesitate to thank your wife for a delicious dinner or for running an errand for you. Emphasise that she always rushes to fulfill your requests. I assure you, in return, you will receive even greater zeal and desire to please you. However, it is important to maintain a happy medium and avoid overpraising your wife, otherwise you will get the opposite of what you intended. Gratitude should be unobtrusive.
- Follow her spiritual development
Spiritual development is, in fact, why we are here in this world. Therefore, the husband, as the head of the family, mentor, and one responsible for the actions and behavior of his household, must ensure that his wife and children develop spiritually and refine their worship. However, in this endeavor, a man must not lag behind, while demanding spiritual development from his family, he must also develop himself. Such shared development is the key to maintaining mutual interest in each other throughout a long family life.
In turn, I ask the Almighty to help all believers strengthen their families and preserve this treasure with which Allah ﷻ, in His mercy, has bestowed upon us in this world.
