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Diploma or marriage?

Diploma or marriage?

If earlier all girls tried to marry off early - so that they would start families and have children on time - now parents of girls put education first. Some fathers, when they come to matchmake their daughter, refuse suitors only because they want the girl to first graduate from university or college.

 

Of course, both education and a diploma are important. And someone can really use it in life. It is always good to become a competent specialist. But starting a family is no less important for a person. After all, marriage is protection from the temptations of this world. If a girl is studying and matchmakers come to her father, you can consider the available options for solving the issue of graduating from a university. You can continue your education by correspondence or transfer to distance learning.

Men want to marry young girls and parents choose exactly such girls for their sons. However, not every suitor for her hand will wait until she graduates from an institute or college. After all, if a man is ready to start a family, he will not wait for years. Many men refuse girls because her parents make it a condition for the marriage that their daughter graduates from a higher educational institution. Despite the fact that their daughter is already mature and ready for marriage, parents do not notice this. And this is wrong on their part. Because not allowing a daughter to get married at a time when she wants to start a family is fraught with consequences. Many have made mistakes because of this that cannot be corrected. Therefore, you need to talk to your daughter.

Many gynecologists are faced with the fact that girls come for an abortion to terminate their first pregnancy. It is when they enter into an intimate relationship without being married, that an unwanted pregnancy often occurs. However, the consequence of an abortion can be complete infertility. It also happens that girls hide their pregnancy from their parents for a long time and sometimes in the sixth or seventh month they try to get rid of the child.

An extramarital affair can entail many terrible and severe consequences. Therefore, the task of parents is to protect their daughters from this. Do not wait for the moment when your beloved child makes mistakes and comes to you with their consequences, but give consent to her marriage if there is a good candidate for the role of her husband.

We live in troubled times. A time of temptations that are very difficult to resist. And a husband for a woman is her protection in this world from the dirt that vile people can drag her into. This is her chance to live in harmony, love and respect. This is her true purpose - to become a wife and mother.

If you love your daughter, marry her off on time. If you want, she can continue getting an education, as a married woman. Protected by her husband from the temptations of this world. After all, the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ himself said that you need to hurry to marry and give in marriage your children. Peace and goodness to all!

 

Khadija Dadaeva

As-Salam writer

2026-07-01 (Muharram 1448) №7.


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