If a girl and a boy are attracted to each other at young age
If a girl and a boy are attracted to each other at young age
If a girl and a boy are attracted to each other at young age what are they supposed to do? Also what is the best thing to do what if they want to get married but are scared to talk to their parents about it?
If you are a young Muslim man and are emotionally involved with a girl that you are talking to, texting, skyping, hanging out, or worse still, then listen up. You need to know that this is all wrong.
The most important treasure a Muslim has is his or her honour. God has honoured us since our birth. “We honoured the children of Adam” He says in the Koran.
Marriage is a relationship that honours both husband and wife. Any romantic involvement outside of that violates that honour. Would you yourself be comfortable if your own sister was just texting some boy who she likes? The girl you are ‘involved’ with is someone’s sister, someone’s daughter. They have dreams of marrying her off in a dignified way one day. If you are too scared to be a man and take the honourable road of approaching her family (many are so scared they cannot even approach their own family), then realize that you are not emotionally ready for a real, loving, relationship. All you really have are very strong urges that are selfish at best.
A real marriage brings two families together. A real marriage is about taking responsibility. Your feelings may be very strong. I do not doubt it. Islam did not make it Haram for you to fall in love. It did not forbid you from wanting someone. It only guides that love so it protects you, her, your families and especially saves you from humiliation on Judgment Day. If you love her so much, why are you comfortable with letting her engage in a questionable relationship knowing full well that she will have to answer God just like you. Do you not love her enough to save her from that? If any of you out there are ‘in love’, please note that teenage years are a crazy time. You totally believe you cannot live without someone and yet you get over them and move on to the next thing in no time, as though nothing happened. Do not let your strong emotions lead you into a mistake that will ruin two lives and two families.
The right thing to do, I think (and it is just my opinion), is to cut off communications entirely until you are ready to talk to your family and hers. Otherwise you are playing with someone’s emotions and creating a stressful situation that will hurt you and her in ways that can scar you for the rest of your lives.
