Gossiping about one’s husband

Gossip, evilspeaking and slander are prohibited in Islam. An authentic hadith of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) says, “One who spreads gossip will not enter Paradise.” However, despite the fact that this is a great sin, we women quite often engage in such reproachable conversations and get real pleasure from them. We like nothing better than discussing someone.

In my opinion, these conversations are especially cynical when they concern our husbands. There are women who shamelessly discuss their husbands with their girlfriends. They do not hesitate to blame and scold their spouses.

The cynicism lies in the fact that, having talked about their men, women continue to smile and talk with their husbands as if nothing had happened. It is not right. It is disgusting and low. I would even say that such behaviour is akin to betrayal and hypocrisy.

Almighty Allah has forbidden us to gossip about and slander other people, even strangers. How can a woman gossip about her husband?

Husbands are protectors, providers and mentors for women. Husbands are the ones to whom Almighty Allah entrusted women and He made them part of men. Husbands are the direct path to Paradise for women. I do not understand how we, knowing all this, can afford to discuss and gossip about our husbands! How can we then go to them and look into their eyes? Think about it, dear sisters!

If we do not like something in the behaviour or deeds of our husbands, then we are to discuss this only with him, with the husband. We are to find a convenient time and the proper tone for such a conversation, i.e. speak with him politely and delicately.

If, on the contrary, a woman has a reason to boast of her wonderful husband in front of her girlfriends, then it is better for her also to refrain from this, because “happiness likes quietness”, and “if you boast something you are very likely to lose it”, as the saying goes.

Based on the above, we draw the following conclusion: the husband is a forbidden object for conversations with girlfriends, relatives, etc. Here is the rule you must follow in a family life: talk about your husband only with your husband and, vice versa, about your wife only with your wife! Let us try it. You will definitely like it! May Almighty Allah strengthen all Muslims families! Amin!

RAYA AKAVOVA

Psychologist