Love like the Prophet Muhammad - quick steps to a better marriage
We often get so swept up in the routine of life that we take our marriages for granted. Luckily the Almighty has given us a perfect portrait in the Messenger of God to help break that routine. Here are five practical, yet powerful, lessons from the Messenger to help rekindle our relationships.
1. Smile often
The Messenger of God used to smile often. So much so that his companions would say they never saw anyone smile more than him. It is easy to forget how powerful a simple smile can be. Husband or Wife; we all have long and strenuous days. Instead of bombarding your spouse with complaints on first sight, engage them with a smiling face. The Messenger of God even told us that simple smile is an act of charity.
2. Say sweet words
Our beloved Messenger would say “Whoever believes in God and the Day of Judgment let them have positive speech or keep quiet.” It is very easy to nitpick at our spouses. We are around each other all the time. Instead of searching out faults, point out qualities. Try making it a new daily habit of complimenting your spouse.
3. Don’t get angry
When Ali (may God ennoble his countenance) married Fatima (may God be pleased with her), the Messenger gave him amazing words of advice. Advice so important that the Holy Prophet repeated it three times, “Do not get angry”. He did not tell him control your anger but rather don’t get angry in the first place. We get angry at our spouses for the silliest things, from how they squeeze the toothpaste to how they wash the dishes. Chill out. Instead smile and say something sweet.
4. Go out together
The Messenger of God would spend quality time with his spouse. He did not live a separate life under the same roof. He would go on walks with his wife, travel with his wife and seek her advice. He would engage in stimulating conversation. When was the last time you took your spouse out for a nice dinner (not talking about curry in a hurry) or went out for a cup of coffee?
5. Say “I love you”
The Messenger of God was not afraid to profess his love. Our religion is built on it as God states, “My love is guaranteed for two who love one another for My sake”. He would often speak of the great affection he had for his wife Khadija (may God be pleased with her). “Her love was given to me as Rizq” he was quoted as saying. Many of us are probably unable to recall the last time we said it to our spouse. That is not prophetic. So there you have it: smile, say something sweet, do not get angry, go out and say “I love you” - remember and practice it.
MUHAMMAD YUSUF
