Seven Tips for a Beloved Daughter
Seven Tips for a Beloved Daughter
Our calendar is filled with all types of holidays - from the whimsical birthday with popcorn to pompous dates “for comprehensive tolerance and world peace.” Some of them conjure up boring reports in stuffy offices, while others unwitty jokes and cheap fast food. And there are other dates - real, common, close and understandable for every person on earth. The International Day of Girls, which is celebrated on 11 October, is among them.
This date was proclaimed by the UN General Assembly in recognition of the rights of girls and the unique challenges they face around the world. And today let us share with you some tips for our beloved girls. And if we teach our daughters these simple rules in time, then there will be much fewer problems in their lives.
- “Love the Almighty above all else! And love everyone else for His sake.”
This is our greatest happiness, a lifeline in any situation. Remind us often how much the Almighty loves us and what huge gifts await us even for the smallest good deed.
- “Perform worship, in spite of everything!”
While our daughter is little, we do everything possible to ensure that only God-fearing people surround her. But she grows up, studies, we marry her off, she gets a job and we do not know what kind of people will be near her. Therefore, today we must explain to her that it does not matter at all how others feel about our prayers, fasting, hijab and everything that the Almighty commands us. And the only thing we can feel for those people who do not understand why they need to wear the hijab or perform namaz is a feeling of pity.
- “Be an obedient wife!”
This is the most important thing we should teach our daughters after the basics of worship. You can lecture her every day that her Paradise is in the pleasure of her husband but everything will fall on deaf ears if a daughter sees every day how her mother manipulates her father. So, if you wish your daughters happiness in this world and in the Hereafter, then be obedient wives to your husbands.
- “You can trust me with anything. I will love you ever”.
Almost all problems in our children begin with distrust of us, parents. Trust in the people closest to you is not lost in one day. Citing fatigue, today we send away our five-year-old daughter, who wanted to share something with us. Tomorrow we give our ten-year-old girl a gadget when she wanted to go for a walk with her parents on her day off from school. Then, when she is thirteen, we make a huge scandal over a C in math. And so in the end we get a fifteen-year-old prickly teenager who does not even want to hear about the fact that she can trust her parents. Do not lose your children’s trust! It is very important!
- “Ask for forgiveness and forgive!”
Every day we must ask for forgiveness from the Almighty and from everyone whom we may have offended in word and deed. Do not hesitate to ask for forgiveness from your children, this is the most effective way to teach them this art. Teach them not to hold a grudge against those who offender them, tell them how the negativity we hold in our hearts destroys us and remind them that the Merciful Allah loves those who forgive!
- “Learn all your life and never say “I cannot”.”
We can give our girls a wonderful education, teach them how to cook many dishes, how to swaddle babies and teach them other skills that can be useful to a woman. But we cannot know in advance what awaits our daughter. Perhaps her mother-in-law will be a lover of molecular cuisine and her husband will become a farmer in the future and she will need to milk cows. Therefore, we must explain to our daughter that there is no such thing as “I cannot”, but there is “I have never tried to do this, please teach me”!
- “My beauty, always take care of yourself and the house.”
The health and appearance of our daughters and everyone who surrounds them (husband, children, relatives) depends on whether we teach girls to eat properly, love cleanliness and maintain hygiene. It all starts with the simplest thing: regularly airing a room, washing hands not only before eating but also before preparing it.
From a very young age, a girl should see that her mother maintains comfort and cleanliness at home, cooks food that is not just tasty, but also healthy, puts on a beautiful dress at home and looks no worse than a princess from a fairy tale.
May Almighty Allah grant our beloved daughters to grow up to be righteous Muslim women and beautiful wives, may Almighty Allah grant them a happy destiny and happiness in both worlds!
