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Male mind

The Almighty, having created this world, made all his creations in pairs - men and women, so that people live on earth, creating their families, in peace and harmony, as a single whole.

 

For those who need more intelligence, they are given it in large quantities, and whoever needs cunning is given cunning. Endowing a man with intelligence, Allah ﷻ entrusted him with duties for which he will be in demand on the Day of Judgment, both for himself and for his women, and for much more, entrusted to him by the justice of the Creator! These are all those duties from which a woman is freed by the grace of the Almighty.

The Almighty endowed the woman with intelligence, but added to it a some cunning so that she could lead a family life in mutual understanding and harmony with her husband and family, without interfering in those matters that a man should think about and decide! After all, the purpose of a woman in this world is to continue the human race and be obedient to her husband!

However, if the husband himself is a model of piety, then his requirements for his other “half” will be normal. A pious husband’s wife will know “her place” in the house of her beloved husband! He will definitely take into account her opinion in their family matters, but solve them at his own discretion. In such a family, a woman, of course, will feel like a queen, whatever her financial situation may be. It is clear here that we are not talking about exceptional cases when a woman is rude and ill-mannered.

Sometimes we see the following picture: the husband is talking about something with his wife but she does not really comprehend him, interrupts him, does not hear his requests, argues with him, and thereby puts the spouse in a stupid position in front of the people around them. We see how these men allegedly do not notice everything that is happening around them but are very nervous about such an attitude of their wives happening towards them. “It is hard to cope with these women,” we sometimes hear from them, as if they were under the tyranny of their wife! But in fact, everything is much simpler! As our theologians say, “If a wife is disobedient, then her husband received such a wife for his mistakes or sins that he commits in secret!” It is a shame to sin openly: people will condemn them.

When a man finds himself in such a stupid situation, one would like to ask such men, “Where did you put that mind of yours that the Almighty endowed you with? And why are you so negligent about yourself?” Yes, yes! About yourself! After all, you are responsible for the wrong behavior of your wife! I remember how one well-known theologian once said in his preaching that sometimes men complain about their wives who do not want to wear a head covering, and they cannot be forced to do so.

Our respected theologian reminded these men how they act when they come home hungry and really want to eat, in fact these men find an approach to their other “halves”. And if food is not prepared due to women’s whims, the husband knows to convince and persuade his wife by demanding food! Unwillingness to build the right relationship with his wife is a loophole for some men to get away from their direct responsibilities when they have to take care and solve family problems!

 

To be continued…

 

 

Sakinat Gadjiahmedova

As-Salam writer

2026-09-01 (Rabi-ul-awwal 1448) №9.


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