Why are women rebellious?
Today, most men complain that their wives show disobedience in family life, do not obey them and are self-willed. Of course, such behavior leads to frequent scandals and quarrels between spouses. This is undoubtedly one of the main reasons for the ruining of marriages. And everything that destroys a family is an evil that needs to be fought.
Therefore, I would like to try to understand the reasons for this kind of behavior of women. Considering this matter it will be wise if we turn to family education, since it is exactly what builds a person and makes him what he will be in adult life.
Starting to fly, little birds do the things they saw in their nest. The problem of our time is that girls, while they grow, are not taught that they should be obedient to their future husbands. On the contrary, from early childhood parents drive the concept of their own uniqueness into the heads of their daughters, obliging everyone around to treat them specifically.
And everyone who disagrees with this concept becomes their enemy number one. Usually, a young husband turns into such an enemy, who quite rightly begins to demand from such a “princess” the fulfillment of certain duties and a proper attitude towards himself.
And at the moment of making demands (to which the girl was not accustomed from birth) comes the drama, and, being unable to resolve the existing conflicts, young people get divorced, committing the most hateful of those permitted deeds for God the Almighty.
This is one aspect of wrong parenting. The second, no less disastrous, is the example that most mothers give to their daughters and that is not showing due respect and obedience to their husbands. When a daughter see how their mother tries to push her father around, and shows dissatisfaction with his decisions or does not obey his requirements, the young girl takes such behavior for granted.
And having already created her own family, she is followed by these wrong values, which, naturally, do not affect her new family favorably. This is roughly how things stand today with the upbringing of girls, who in future become wives and mothers. The situation is truly sad.
I often write about the family and how to strengthen the relations in it, how to prevent divorce and find mutual understanding. I do it because I really love the family. Not only mine, as one may probably think. I love the family in general, for it is the cell of society.
The destruction of family is a real tragedy for me. This is even if it happens to people who are completely unfamiliar to me. This is since I consider the family to be the principal value for a person in this world after his belief and love for God the Almighty and the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
Therefore, I urge parents to give their children the proper attention and educate them in the right way, setting a good example.
Please take a look at the broken lives of sons and daughters. Did you really dream such a fate for your “princess” or “prince”, who were raised gently and with tenderness?!
Do you really agree that the marriage of your children is just an attempt to arrange their personal life?! If it works – that is well, and if it does not work – they return to the parental home in which they are always welcome.
I think everyone will agree that there is no good in having daughters return back to their father’s home after a failed marriage. There, of course, they are always welcomed with open arms but each person should have his own home and his own family.
And coming to the parental home can be a blessing only if it is a common visit to one’s father and mother to make them pleased. Everything else is evil and turmoil and we need to tackle this by working on strengthening marriages in our society. In conclusion, I would like to address parents again.
I urge you to bring up your daughters to be humble and obedient, as well as toteach them the correct concepts of family values. And, of course, pursue the correct “policy” in your family so that children see a worthy example of relations between spouses, which they could later transfer to their family. May God help us to educate our children in the best possible way and may He strengthen our families!
Amin!
RAYA AKAVOVA
