The purpose of a woman’s life
The purpose of a woman’s life
As a psychologist I often have to listen to women’s complaints, including the following: “my husband communicates with others”, “my husband wants to take (or already has taken) another wife”. And almost every second such statements are followed by the words, “I don’t want to live anymore”.
When you hear such statements from many women it makes you wonder if the whole meaning of a woman’s life comes down to her husband.
If a husband does not communicate with anyone, pays due attention to his wife and is at home most of the time, the woman considers herself happy and that she is doing well.
However, if it happens that the husband ceases to pay attention to her, often meets with friends or even communicates with women outside, she is discouraged and the meaning of her whole life disappears.
But is this right? Is this the way a woman should live, if she believes in Almighty Allah and the Day of Judgment?
Of course, the above described behaviour of men cannot be counted as appropriate, rather it is bad and terribly unpleasant for females. And it would be great if such situations do not arise in families.
Yet this life is full of trials. And each person has to go through them: someone has to face a polygamous marriage, someone finds his spouse chatting with others and others are sick or in great need.
If with every difficulty you lose the desire to live, this means that essentially you have no purpose in life. Because, as I said before, the essence of life is trial, which means that there will always be something that hurts or saddens us during our life.
Therefore, everything you need is to approach your life in the proper way. Do not get stuck to it like a parasite, which lives at the expense of another organism, rather try to be like petals on trees blooming in spring that cling slightly to their flower.
If one learns to treat the trials of life with equanimity, they will never become a heavy burden. But a wrong attitude and perception of whatever is happening can lead to negative consequences.
In this regard I would like to ask you, dear sisters, to think it over! Consider for a moment how you approach this life and its trials. How do you feel about your husband and how much do you elevate his status?
I would like you to think very carefully and then answer honestly to one question to yourself: who do you love more your husband or Allah?
RAYA AKAVOVA
FAMILY PSYCHOLOGIST
