Quick steps to a better marriage
Some people, being swept up in the routine of life, start to take their marriages for granted. Luckily, God Almighty has given us a perfect portrait in the Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) to help break that routine. Let us share with you five practical and powerful lessons from the Messenger to help revive our relationships.
1. Smile Often
The Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) used to smile often, so much that his companions would say, they never saw anyone smile more than him. It is easy to remember how powerful a simple smile can be. Husband or wife, we all have long and stressful days. Therefore, instead of bombarding your spouse with complaints on first sight, engage them with a smiling face. The Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) even told us that a simple smile is an act of charity.
2. Say Sweet Words
Our beloved Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) would say, “Whoever believes in God and the Day of Judgment let them have positive speech or keep quiet.”
It is very easy to find faults with our spouses. We are around each other all the time. Instead of searching out faults, point out qualities. Try making it a new daily habit of complimenting your spouse.
3. Do Not Be Angry
When Ali (may God ennoble his countenance) married Fatimah (may God be pleased with her), the Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) gave him amazing words of advice. It was so important that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) repeated it three times, “Do not get angry”. He (peace and blessings be upon him) did not tell him control you anger but rather do not get angry in the first place. We get angry with our spouses for the silliest things, from how they squeeze the toothpaste to how they wash the dishes. Calm down. Instead, smile and say something sweet.
4. Go Out Together
The Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) would spend quality time with his spouse. He (peace and blessings be upon him) did not live a separate life under the same roof. He (peace and blessings be upon him) would go on walks with his wife, travel with his wife and seek her advice. He (peace and blessings be upon him) would engage in stimulating conversation. Now confess, when was the last time you took your spouse out for a nice dinner or went out for a cup of coffee?
5. Feel Free to Say “I Love You”
The Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) was not afraid to profess his love. Our religion is built on it, as God states (meaning), “My love is guaranteed for two who love one another for My sake.”
He (peace and blessings be upon him) would often speak of the great affection he had for his wife Khadija (may God be pleased with her). “Her love was given to me as Rizq,” he was quoted as saying. Many of us are probably unable to recall the last time we said it to our spouse.
Undoubtedly, if we follow these principles in our daily lives, we will be successful in our relationship with our spouses. As you can see, these principles are not complicated; on the contrary, they do not need much effort. But the result we are to get if we follow them will please both us and our soul mate.
Only harmonious relations between spouses will become a good foundation in raising good offspring. If there is no understanding and respect between spouses, children are more likely to inherit the character and habits of their parents.
Therefore, we recommend that you listen to the advice given in this article, as they come from the best of people - the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
