You cannot educate with an iPhone

You cannot educate with an iPhone

For centuries, mothers and fathers have selflessly raised their offspring, instilling in them everything that is most necessary and valuable and protecting them from everything bad that may come their way along the path of life. Unfortunately, with time and scientific advances, everything has changed. And today, in our age of information technology, we have to admit that upbringing and parents are “not at all the same as they were before”.

You see what it comes down to today: both parents are at work all day, while the children are left to their own mobile devices. The main goal of parents is to feed, to dress and to buy their precious child the latest model iPhone or iPad.

This is what “raising” children is all about in many families. And the spiritual and moral development of children occurs under the influence of the Internet, television, social networks and friends (it is fair to note that children have the opportunity to use the Internet, access social networks and communicate with friends precisely thanks to the gadgets purchased by their parents).

Have you ever thought about what they are watching on the Internet? What channels do you choose on TV? Who are they friends with? This is all very important. If we talk, for example, about the Internet, then on it you can find a lot of forbidden videos, pictures and other vile things that are freely available. And any child, filled with curiosity, has no problem finding and viewing everything that interests him.

Having no “filters,” children take on faith all the information that comes to them from the above communication channels. An incorrect personality is formed under the influence of this information. And in the future, when he is adult, he subsequently may become the cause of shame for his parents in this far from wonderful future.

And if we do not want to raise a generation of immoral and callous people, we are obliged to work on our mistakes and reconsider our methods of education, our attitude towards children and our behavior. Because no matter what smart advice we give to our children, they learn by looking at us.

We need to take care of our children, not to spare money on them, but our time, our kind and affectionate words, and our attention as well. Only by devoting enough time to children one can raise them to be the right sort of people and instill in them the right concepts about life in this world.

We have the Koran and we have the wonderful example of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and his companions. Study their life story yourself and tell this to your children. Read books with them, communicate and play. Just do not leave your offspring to grow like weeds in a field.

The Creator gave people parents for a reason and did not confine their responsibilities towards children to the banal provision of food and clothing according to the season.

Parents are, first of all, educators. And they are educators not of just one person, but of an entire society. Therefore, if we do not want that in the future the results of our upbringing become the cause of our shame, we should always remember this fact.

Raya Akavova

Psychologist