Woman after divorce

Divorce is the last step when there is no other way out in marriage and it is impossible to fix anything. In Islam, divorce is considered the most hated action for the Almighty among those that are permissible for people.

Hardly anyone wants a divorce, but if that is the case, what is next? What should a woman do if she turned out to be overboard into the raging ocean called “life”?

She has a hard time: reproaches from both her own and former relatives, unambiguous views of men seeing her as a potential victim, unreasonable jealousy on the part of married women who are concerned about their spouses. Thus, she feels helplessness and loneliness. Everything immediately falls on her head.

A woman is torn apart by resentment, fears and doubts, and somewhere far away one can see a ray of hope. Do not despair and lose hope in the mercy of God, because the Almighty is the Most Merciful and loves us more than parents love their children.

Almighty Allah has said in the Holy Quran (meaning), “O you who believe! Seek help in all your endeavors through patience and prayer. Verily, Allah is with those who are patient (helps them and protects them).” (Sura Al-Baqarah, ayah 153)

There is a way out of any situation, and Almighty Allah tells us about this in His Holy Quran (meaning): “Indeed, after every hardship comes relief. Verily, after every hardship there will be relief.” (Sura Ash-Sharh, ayat 5-6)

Therefore, it is important to protect oneself from sins, sincerely repent of one’s deeds earlier and, relying on God, move forward.

How to protect oneself from unworthy men?

Some impious men can allow themselves to disrespect divorced women and try to deceive them like easy prey. A woman should be ready for this and protect her honor and dignity. If someone approaches a woman with obscene proposals, she must immediately resist them. One cannot be gullible. A woman must firmly know that God will definitely bring her together with the one who is predestined to her. And the one who truly respects a woman and sees her as a legal wife, and not as a temporary joy, will officially go to her relatives to woo her.

It is up to a divorced woman to decide whether to remarry or not, but according to the norms of Islam, she is recommended to marry if a well-behaved and trustworthy person comes to her.

What’s done is done

Of course, we must try to avoid a divorce, but if this still happens, one need to be persistent and in no case get involved in disputes and mutual reproaches against former relatives and not defame one’s ex-husband, flaunting all his shortcomings and sins. It is best to trust in God and postpone the final trial until the Day of Judgment. If we want the Lord to hide our sins, we need to hide the sins of others.

As a rule, it is easier for a man after a divorce to create a new family than for a woman, but, of course, there may be exceptions. In any case, both for a man and a woman, divorce is a very big stress and they need psychological support from friends and relatives.

Suraki bin Malik (may God be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of God (peace and blessings be upon him) said to him, “Should I not point out to you the best kind of alms (sadaqah)? This is the beneficence that you will give to your daughter, who was returned to you after a divorce, and who has no one but you to provide for her.” (Narrated by Ibn Majah)

May God the Almighty grant that there are fewer divorces, and that those who are divorced find happiness again both in this world and in the next. Amin.

Muhammad Alimchulov, As-Salam correspondent