Accept gifts in a proper way
Accept gifts in a proper way
At first glance, the following question may sound strange. How is it even possible to accept gifts incorrectly? What is so difficult about it: take the gift, say thank you and that is it. Is not it?
Not always. Because, firstly, we can “take it and thank” in such a way that people will never give us anything else, and secondly, sometimes it happens that the giver does not even hear the words “Thank you”. It is especially important for us women to be able to accept gifts from a loved one - our spouse.
Giving gifts to his beloved is an integral property of masculinity: in this way, a man shows concern for the one whom he protects and whom he has chosen as a reliable and trusted life partner. In other words, giving gifts to his wife is completely natural for a man, this is his need. And accepting is natural for her.
However, it happens that some women forget about this.
One successful business lady, a mother of two children, lamented in a conversation with a friend, “My husband and I got married out of great love. After the wedding, he took care of me, invited me to cafes and constantly gave me gifts. Children were born. And a few years later, my husband started drinking, even things began to disappear from the house - he drank them away... I do not know what to do.” - “What did he give you?” my friend asked. “Rings, valuable chains; he invited me to shops and offered to buy me something as a gift. I answered him, “No, why are you giving me this? If I need it, I will buy everything myself...”
Consider her answer? “I myself,” “No need,” “Why are you giving me all this?” In rejecting the sincere gifts of her husband, such a woman says what essentially means, “I do not need gifts from you,” and the man often subconsciously perceives the non-verbal message “...and I do not need you myself.” How does a man react, especially if such incidents are repeated with unenviable regularity? As a rule, he either becomes disappointed and is alienated from his wife, sometimes finding someone who will accept his attentions more favourably, or, especially if his character is not too strong, his male need to protect his woman fails and his behavior gradually begins to become destructive, as in the example given here.
How then a woman should behave in order to maintain her husband’s motivation to give her gifts? The simplest clues come from the rules of etiquette. First of all, remember gratitude. Always accept the gift and thank him, looking into the eyes of the giver. Eye contact is very important. A smile and a joyful expression on your face are certainly a good accompaniment of gratitude.
It is highly advisable to open the gift right away and not take it away or put it aside - they say, “I’ll look at it later, there is no rush, there are more important things to do now.” Thanking and pleasing the giver is one of the most important things for the recipient.
If jewelry is given as a gift, it is advisable to try it on immediately if you are in a suitable environment, for example at home.
You should not express reproaches or annoyance such as, “It is a good jacket, but it is a pity that the buttons are not mother-of-pearl,” “Yes, I wanted a ring like this - but not with one diamond but with three,” “Why did not you ask me what kind of hair dryer brand I want?” This is your husband, he is the best of men, which means the gift from him is the best.
By the way, you can hint to your man in advance what kind of gift you would like. To do this, it is enough to sometimes mention to him, for example: “How I would like such a blue dress with embroidery to dress elegantly for the holidays!” If a husband wants to please his wife, then your wish will soon come true.
Some men prefer to give their wife money so that she can buy what she needs. This is wisdom and practicality on their part, and in no way is it laziness or unwillingness to show attention. After all, who, if not a woman, is better versed in the things she needs?
And, of course, your spouse should be encouraged to continue to give you pleasant and useful gifts. Firstly, with your sincere joy and gratitude, which in themselves are an excellent motivation. (At the same time, it is important not to overdo it with delight, so that your spouse does not think that this is too expensive a gift for you and that in the future you will be satisfied with something insignificant.) Secondly, you should use the things you have been given. Men, as a rule, look at everything rationally and, seeing that their gifts bring benefit and pleasure to their beloved, react with positive emotions and are inspired to continue to please their spouse. Thirdly, you can motivate your spouse, for example, by preparing a particularly tasty treat for lunch or dinner.
We wish you, dear readers, happiness, prosperity and mutual understanding in your family. And, of course, wonderful gifts from loved ones!
