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May I refuse to marry a righteous Muslim if I do not like his appearance?

May I refuse to marry a righteous Muslim if I do not like his appearance?

Let us share some tips for those who is thinking over starting a family. First of all, remember that appearance also matters but this is not the most important thing. You should rather pay attention to a person’s character and his fear of God.

Of course, only God the Almighty knows best how not to make a mistake in choosing, but what we can do is to reduce mistakes to a minimum. There are recommendations for choosing a future spouse, that are stated in a hadith transmitted from Abu Hurairah (may God be pleased with him). It says that the Messenger of God said, “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by At-Tirmidhi).

The Messenger of God warns us about the undesirability of rejecting a marriage proposal if there is no serious reason for rejection. This hadith also indicates that the main reason for refusing a marriage proposal may be the lack of religiosity of the young man and his bad disposition. Do not turn down an offer just because you do not like the person’s appearance.

Beauty is a relative concept and is easily lost, even the most beautiful person can instantly lose his beauty as a result of injury or illness. On the other hand, if your husband is too handsome, there is a good chance that the women out there will fall in love with him. Therefore, your husband will have another wife.

MUHAMMAD ALIMCHULOV

As-Salam correspondent

2026-04-01 (Shawwal 1447) №4.


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