My dad is the President
My dad is the President
– Who do you love more: mom or dad? – Mom and dad. – And who is more? – No one else!
I often heard this question from adults as a child. And I think it is very incorrect to put a child before a choice between the two main people in his life. Father is a support, protector, helper and role model. Mom is home, comfort, warmth and affection. And yet, this question of who to love more probably arose for a reason in the minds of adults. After all, they talk more often about mothers. And that’s great, because no one is in close contact with the child like she is. But with all this, the father plays an invaluable role in raising children. Even despite the fact that he spends almost three times less time with the children than his mother. Coming home from work, he sees his dear little eyes looking at him like buttons, because he, like a superhero, goes on a special task - work - every day.
From the day a man becomes a husband, he takes on the responsibilities of being the breadwinner of his still small family.
From the day he first takes his baby into strong and reliable hands, he becomes a father, protector, and role model. A heavy burden falls on his shoulders. Feeding and clothing is one side of the coin. But giving a decent education to a new person in this world is completely different.
A father for a daughter is an example of a father’s relationship with her mother. Looking at her father, the daughter intuitively puts together a puzzle, which is established in her as the foundation of family relationships, which in the future will become a point of support and growth in the development of relations with her spouse. The father is the first and main man in his daughter’s life. She will choose her future husband based on her father. Dad’s smile, a compliment about a beautiful dress and the most delicious, albeit “over-salted” pie in the world, are like wings on which she will someday fly out of her father’s nest.
For a child, there is no one closer than his father and mother. It is for parents that a child will forever remain a child, even if he is already an adult, even a 40-50 year old person. A mother will never forget the moment her baby was born, and a father will never forget about that joyful and most important day in his life.
Divorce is not a reason to distance yourself
Upbringing should not take place unilaterally if the relationship between the parents for some reason did not work out. The incidence of divorce among young couples is not decreasing, but, unfortunately, the opposite is true. The mother, left alone with her small child, tries with all her might to fill in the gaps due to the absence of the father. A woman’s accumulated grievances make themselves known, and over time, communication between dad and baby decreases and happens less and less. This is strongly discouraged for mothers. After all, your ex-spouse is also a parent. And the child has the right to see and spend time with his dad.
There are also frequent cases of single fathers. By nature, it is a woman who is the keeper of the hearth, the fairy of comfort and order around. A man is basically a provider and protector. A single mother additionally takes on part of the responsibility for earning money, and the father, left alone with the child in his arms, takes on housework that is not typical for him. Circumstances force him to. The latest census in 2021 revealed an increase in the number of single parents. Mothers raising children themselves make up 37.7%, and single fathers - up to 8.2%. The numbers are disappointing.
Payment of alimony in no way compensates or relieves the father’s responsibilities in raising children. This is only the material side, which essentially does not give the child anything except additional clothes and other necessary things. Children need action, contact, and an example before their eyes and sincere conversations as well. They need to know that they have someone to turn to when needed. Yes, the parent may get angry, yes, they may not buy an old wish, but the child will know for sure: he will be listened to and heard. And he will know: there are no hopeless situations in life. And the first way out is an understanding dad and mom.
Dad is the president in the house
The main leadership position in the family is still occupied by the father, who sets certain rules of behavior for the household members. Education is a continuous process. And here it is important not to go too far, but at the same time not to miss the moment. In certain situations you should be more strict, in others you should be more lenient. Strict does not mean being rude to a child. Strictness means a conversation to identify the reasons for such behavior and talk through ways to solve the problem. An agreement that this act will not be repeated and what the punishment will be in case of disobedience. In upbringing it is necessary to show reasonableness, love, sincerity and lots and lots of joy. Joy depends not so much on material values as on the leisure time spent together. No things, toys or fancy gadgets can replace even an hour of walking together, playing board games or coloring the next superhero. The father’s task is to give the right direction in development, be patient and be an example in the eyes of the children. After all, this is the only way they can absorb all the best.
