Little children on the big planet Earth
When Adam, the first man, was created, he was completely alone and this feeling did not leave him until Eve was created.
Since then, the human race has been destined to interact with each other and live in the company of other people.
And how to interact correctly, without violating other people’s rights and freedoms? All the prophets and messengers of God taught this and all the Divine scriptures explained the rules of life on earth.
Each person has his own values, his own interests, views and preferences and it is extremely difficult to live in harmony in this world without disturbing the societal balance. This is the special test of man on earth.
Every new person on earth has to go through this test. Therefore, it is important that parents, guardians and adults know how to properly help and support the younger generation in its communication with society.
How can parents help children prepare for a big and difficult life on planet Earth? What skills can adults give children so that they can easily take their first steps towards understanding the universe?
Every adult, if they look back at their childhood, will remember how they learned about the world around them and how they established contact with society.
Effective social skills
Like all types of life skills, children learn social skills in stages. For example, a child needs to be aware of other people’s feelings in order to develop effective social skills, which include the ability to share and cooperate with others. The ability to find a common language with others is a highly valued skill that helps a person succeed in life.
At first, children learn by observing how parents and family members behave with each other. Therefore, parents need to teach them basic manners and ethics.
As children grow older, they have the opportunity to interact with others outside their family.
Therefore, it is very important to teach them empathy for people, to get along with others at school on the street and in local communities. Accepting and coping with failure is an important life skill that parents should teach their children.
They should be able to avoid despair, give up but at the same time avoid taking unnecessary risks or doing crazy things. They need to think about the consequences of their actions, approach a problem calmly and try to solve it with trust in Allah.
In an increasingly results-oriented society, children may get the impression that failure in something means that they are not very good and will never attempt it again.
Children often internalise the messages they receive from their parents, and the sooner parents teach them to accept failure and recover in the right ways, the easier it will be for the child to cope with problems.
Tell children the stories of the prophets
The stories of the prophets contain the wisdom of mankind. They teach patience, perseverance, loyalty, devotion, motivate for the good and warn against the forbidden and call for fairness. Every prophet has something to teach us, every step and action they took is a lesson for us.
Be useful in everything
Encourage your children to strive for goodness and to benefit others. It is very important to learn to be useful to people, regardless of their attitude towards us. Our goodness makes others kinder.
Help them be strong
A strong person is not only someone who is physically strong. A strong person is someone who trusts in Allah, strives for a goal, tries hard, does not spare himself and is not lazy. Whether it is a conflict over toys, a difficult mathematics equation or negative peer pressure at school, children will face problems every day. Here it is very important to let them feel that you are there, to provide support and suggest how to get out of the situation.
Do not encourage bad behavior
If your child behaves incorrectly, oppresses others, hits, humiliates or insults, in no case should you encourage this or turn a blind eye to it. It is necessary to explain that this is not right, that it is wrong. Here an example with a connection to religion will help - about how the Lord teaches us to be kind and bring peace to others.
Give a growth mindset
Teach children to learn from their own and others’ mistakes and to benefit from failures. When a child truly wants to succeed in something, every failure should strengthen their determination to achieve their goals.
Stories of great people’s hard work will help develop this skill. For example, the prophet Nuh (Noah) built his Ark despite all the difficulties and ultimately saved humanity and the animal world.
Teach your child that God sees and knows everything
This will cultivate self-control, sincerity, good behavior, piety, and responsibility for their actions in a child.
Prepare for independent life
Parents will not always be there to solve their child’s problems or help them recover from failures. By teaching them to reflect on their mistakes, learn and grow, you can convey to them the idea that effort is more than innate ability. This is the idea of a mindset of becoming better and overcoming life’s difficulties with dignity.
