Five dangerous questions to ask one’s husband
Five dangerous questions to ask one’s husband
Do we always understand our spouses? - No. Even after living under the same roof for 10-15 years, eating more than a peck of salt together, having children, building a house, planting a whole garden together, we continue to talk about the same things in different languages.
And yes, these are “dialects” of love, but they have such different accents that it is often simply impossible to understand each other. And those couples who are just starting their family life sometimes seem like foreigners trying their best to convey something important to each other.
We, women, are naturally more flexible, receptive to new things and able to adapt to the situation. It is easier for us to learn this important science - to understand our husbands, to build a dialogue with them, to ask the right questions at the right time. At the same time, we love to talk, and each of us can create three things out of nothing: a hat, a salad and a scandal. That is why every wife should have a list of stop words, dangerous phrases and inappropriate questions in her notes that can ruin her relationship with her beloved man for a long time.
- “How much did you spend?”
The ability to accept gifts is the same art as giving them. After living in marriage for several years, we suddenly become incredibly practical and scold our husbands for unnecessary spending. Having received a bouquet of flowers or something else unnecessary in everyday life, you should not ask, “How much did you spend?”, “Was it really impossible to give me a frying pan?”, “You know, the flowers will wither tomorrow and how are we going to pay for the repairs?” Such remarks completely kill the romance in family life.
- “Do I look bad?”
“Have I gained weight?”, “Does this dress really suit me?”, “Am I getting old?” – there are a great many variations of such questions but they all focus the attention of the opposite sex on our shortcomings, which they simply did not notice until that moment. A man will most likely not tell the truth in response but a woman will demonstrate her low self-esteem in all its glory. If you do not receive enough compliments from your spouse, you need to formulate your request in a completely different way. Smile more often and compliment yourself, let your husband hear it. Praise him, sincerely noting his strengths and advantages, because affectionate words are pleasant to everyone, regardless of gender. Remind him that hearing compliments from him is very important to you, it lifts your spirits and with each praise you love him even more.
- “Where are you now?”
Control is something that causes extreme irritation in most men. But wives are tempted to interrogate with bias: “Where have you been?”, “Who have you been talking to?”, “What have you just done?” Some even call with the sole purpose of finding out where their spouse is or use special spy apps for this. What do women want to hear when they ask such questions? It is unclear. After all, if a man really has something to hide, he will find a way to do it. Total control indicates mistrust and this is the quality that destroys any relationship. By encroaching on your husband’s personal space, you cause nothing but irritation and hostility.
- “Do you love me?”
This question sounds very childish, but we, women, love to ask our other half and at the most inopportune moment. Men express all their feelings much more simply and clearly than the weaker sex, so their dislike will be expressed very brightly and clearly. From early childhood, boys are taught to hide their emotions, so few of them, growing up, will constantly proclaim their love and express it strongly. So, let us pay attention to our actions. Yes, this advice is as old as the world but it is really important.
- “If I die, will you marry someone else?”
It is another ridiculous question that irritates most men. It is not clear what we want to hear in response to this provocation. An oath of fidelity and unbearable suffering of a beloved husband? Or his admission that he will try to arrange his personal life immediately after the funeral? We all understand that life is unpredictable and no matter what he answers, in reality everything can turn out completely differently. So just be glad that you are alive, love and are loved!
